We know that NOT YOUR TYPICAL GAY started off with the best of intentions. We know that the blog was intended to fight homophobia, not contribute to it. We know that the straight world stereotypes us into categories that do not fit us all. We know these stereotypes are portrayed in a negative light by the straight world.
The problem is this: gay people who do not fit these stereotypes are too quick to attack these stereotypes themselves, as a reaction against the negativity of the straight world. Unfortunately, in doing so, they only perpetuate the negative feeling towards people who DO fit these stereotypes.
We need to support each other and say: IT’S TRUE. WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME. WE ARE DIVERSE. BOTH THE STEREO- AND NON-STEREOTYPICAL GAY MAN ARE AWESOME!
NOT YOUR TYPICAL GAY had the best intentions but unfortunately those intentions are not enough. They want to fight homophobia and do something positive for the community. That’s fantastic. It’s really, really awesome. But unless they start to moderate the submissions sent into them, and adapt them with sensitivity towards the stereotypical gays, then they are failing in their mission.
This would not be too hard to do. A submission might say
WE DON’T ALL LISTEN TO LADY GAGA.
This implies that those of us who do listen to her music are stereotypical, and the tone is negative. Instead of their current cut/paste practice, NOT YOUR TYPICAL GAY could easily post:
SOME OF US LISTEN TO LADY GAGA AND SOME OF US DON’T.
Thats just an example. I’m sure others could think of much better ways to express the sentiment.
What I am finding so difficult to grasp is why the guys running NOT YOUR TYPICAL GAY are so determined to continue with their current methods, in spite of the fact that they are clearly offending members of the gay community (members I might add who all of us owe a debt of gratitude for bearing the brunt of the stereotype-related negativity of the straight world).
If their mission is to fight homophobia, then at the very least they should be more sensitive to the fabulous amongst us while they do it.