I'm just wondering, why don't you include internalised homophobia directed at butch lesbians? Or is Grindr just for bi/gay men?

Yeah Grindr is pretty much just for guys. Although I have seen a couple of FTM guys on there. I put up a link to a blog that addresses internalised homophobia towards masculine lesbians in the early days but don’t write so much about it myself because I don’t know the subject matter too well. I know it’s common though. If you go to my archive the link is one of the earliest from last October, the title has the words “sorry I look so gay” in it from memory 🙂