You shouldn’t be called self-hating for who you are, not at all.


Were you using language like “straight acting” and “no femmes / no queens / no girly guys / no sissies / no lisps / no wrist flappers” etc? Because if you were, then that is the language self-hate, and you shouldn’t be surprised at being called out on it.

If you were using that language it also means you haven’t really come to terms with your sexuality at all, because you’re still trying to “prove” you’re not one of “those typical gays”.