Secret Confession #32.

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I find the idea of Grindr exciting for two reasons;

1. I like not feeling like the only gay in the world/ Melbourne. By this I mean I feel lonely, like I don’t have any gay people to obsess over anything with; ie. Madonna’s latest album and tour, Lady Gaga’s unreleased songs, etc.

2. If I was single, it’d be nice to know the really hot, straight-looking guy in a tailored suit with the world’s biggest bulge in his pants sitting across from me on the train is up for a good fuck session.

The hot “straight looking guy”? Seriously you said this? Not surprised you’re from Melbourne! Why does a hot guy automatically become “straight looking” in your mind? Can’t gay men be hot as well?

This is just another example of masculinity being perceived as belonging solely to the “straight” domain, and effeminacy belonging only to gays. Can’t gays be masculine to these people? A lot of these people are the first to whine about “queens” and “femmes” but at every single opportunity they hand masculinity over to heterosexuals without even a moment’s consideration.

To some this might seem like a harmless use of words in a harmless post. To me, and a lot of people who follow this blog, it’s far from harmless. It’s just more evidence that after 40 years of fighting for equality, our biggest enemy is still members of our own community who pine over heteronormative constructs and have little, if any, understanding of who and what they are as unique non-heterosexuals.

STRAIGHT DOES NOT EQUAL MASCULINE. GAY DOES NOT EQUAL FEMININE. GET THIS INTO YOUR HEADS!

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